A couple of mean girls were attacking my friend Olive at HUS and I wrote that for her, so she would reflect on her own behavior, how she was allowing other people to bully her. Enter Susan, and she took my post as a personal attack to herself, which wasnt. So what would you do? apologize to Susan for the offense you didnt mean, talk through it and make sure everything is cool? How about if this unrelated drama, this sudden and hurtful misunderstanding is the pattern

If youre a man wandering at HUS and youre friendly, Susan will first receive you with cushions and drinks, treat you well, make sure youre comfortable and enjoying the show, and pull you in closely, intimately, so you become part of her "team". See. Susan either has allies or foes, its a Black or White world, where the shades of gray are measured according to how much she can use you as an ally, and where she plays the unquestionable moral compass of White.

Emphasis on "unquestionable". So all it will take is for you to express a dissenting opinion, or a criticism, and your comfortable friendship and trust you were building and the drink that youre holding on your hand, will explode, beautifully, because you stepped on a land mine that you didnt know was there. Now youre labeled a despicable foe. You'll be walking on eggshells in dating drama. Eventually break or refuse.

And that second, the second you profusely apologize, everything will be ok. Paradise and agreeableness and trust will come back. Even when youre not sure about what the fuck just went on. This is called training. And it will happen again. With no warning the drinks will explode, the lights will go off, the rage will go on. Shell push you out, then pull you in. You'll swear wtf why is this so confusing? Break the cycle or get trapped forever.